In October 2009 I was a single 34 year old woman determined to experience a grand adventure.I saved up my money and climbed Mt Kilimanjaro in Tanzania, worked in an orphanage in Mombasa, Kenya, and visited my World Vision sponsor child in Ethiopia.
This is my account of my experience in Mombasa, Kenya, the most humbling week of my life.
The humidity of
Mombasa hits me like a wet blanket when I step off the plane onto the tarmac.
Even though it’s evening in the city you can still see the poverty that is just
a way of life for the Kenyans. Mud brick houses with tin sheeting for windows
and doors line the roads as we make our way into the heart of town. People walk
barefoot beside the car trying to sell us an assortment of goods – pieces of
sugarcane to chew on, second hand shoes, and bags of over-ripe bananas.
During the day the
chaos is astounding! Tut tut’s and matatau’s honk their horns looking for
passengers heading in their direction. I see a matatau with “Mshomoroni” on the
side in faded print and catch the eye of the conductor. The mini bus seats 15
people at a push (including the passenger seat up front) so that means I squeeze
on with 20 other people. By now I’m used to people staring at me so I put on a
brave face and pretend I’ve done this a hundred times. For 20 Kenyan shillings
(20 cents), the matatau takes me on a 25 minute journey down bumpy dirt roads,
past food markets and the Indian precinct to one of the poorest villages in
town, Mshomoroni. I tap on the side of the door and try and catch the driver’s
attention over the deafening beat of the stereo playing reggae. The matatau
comes to a screeching halt as I try not to bang my head on the metal bar in
front of my seat. I’m hit with a rush of cool air as I slide past the large
Kenyan woman with the sack of potatoes on her lap and step down into the mud.
It’s been raining.
The sweat pours from
me but instead of stopping for a drink, I walk with purpose down dirt
alleyways, ignoring the cries of “mzungu, mzungu!” (white person, white
person!) that are shouted my way. Little street kids run up and ask, “How are
you? How are you?” but they don’t understand what it means. They just know
that’s what you say to a mzungu. They jostle each other for a chance to touch
my skin or to hold my hand.
As I get further into
the depths of Mshmoroni, I have to take detours. The rain from the last few
nights has settled into rivers that prevent me from walking the alleyways that
I know.
I finally see little
children in their red and white uniforms and know I’m at New Hope Orphanage.
They scream and jump up and down as I get nearer and give me the biggest hugs
you could ever wish for. Their uniforms are dirty and stained, missing buttons,
and some children have no shoes and play in the mud, but they are the happiest,
smiling faces I’ve ever seen.
Little princess Rose outside New Hope Orphanage |
I go into the
storeroom and avoid the baby mouse on the floor, and I grab a sack of beans
that need sorting. It takes a good three hours to sort the good beans from the
bad, so the kids can eat a good meal tomorrow. I throw out a handful of rocks
that would not have made for a pleasant meal.
At 12pm a rush of
excited and hungry kids burst through the door ready for their bowl of beans
and rice. The little ones rush away to play in the alleyways whilst the older
boys come home for their “Mt Kenya” bowls of lunch. The empty dishes pile up on
the floor where later I’ll wash them all in a bucket.
Yesterday was my first
day at their school. Walking to school from the orphanage felt like I’d been
transported to a World Vision television campaign. Babies lying on the side of
the road playing with empty water bottles and the thinnest goats you’ve ever
seen feeding on rubbish. The sound of singing children sounds like hope. I sit
with the grade two kids all morning and sing Kiswahili songs and teach English
words for telling the time.
At lunch I play skip
rope with the girls using a too short piece of rope whilst I watch Sarah, my
new eight-year old friend, eat two small lollies for lunch. If I give her my
muesli bar then what do I give the other kids? I can wait for dinner but how do
you decide who gets food and who goes without? It crushes me.
That evening, as I go
to bed listening to the local mosque melodically calling all Muslims to prayer
(I feel like I’m in the Middle East), I feel sad that tomorrow is my last day
at the school. This has been the most eye-opening, humbling week of my life and
I feel so grateful for everything that I have at home, but most of all for everyone
I have at home.
I miss you.
Melissa
Hi Mel, your blog site looks great - (your hubby shared it on Facebook!).
ReplyDeleteLoved reading your blog about your time in Africa. I went to visit my sponsor child in Guatelmala in 2010, which was a hugely humbling and emotional experience for me. It definitely puts life into perspective and makes you realise what's important.
What struck me most was how a community with so little could be so happy and so willing to give when they had so little to give. I was greeted with handmade bunches of flowers, welcome signs, fireworks (!!), and a home cooked meal. In contrast my westernised presents of school supplies, hats and toys seemed almost superficial.
What also amused me was their amazement as to how I could be 30, still single and not yet married off!!
I think as females we are brought up being told we should want, have and do it all, but I guess finding that balance of career and family ambitions and being satisfied (and not exhausted!) can be really tricky!
I hope your blog helps you find that something extra!!
Thanks so much! I completely agree. World Vision struggled to understand the fact that I wasn't married. So much so that later in my trip I ended up telling people I was married so they would stop giving me "that look"!
DeleteI really appreciate you commenting on my blog. Thanks for the support!
Hello Melissa, enjoyed reading this a lot. It brought back memories too as I was in Mombassa too on my last big adventure before motherhood. It's quite a place. We moved to Karachi for a year when first son was three months old, similar shock! Very grateful for the ease of our lives here in Australia. Good to meet you and thanks for visiting my blog.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your message Seana. I think your blog is great!
ReplyDeleteWhat an amazing experience living in Karachi with a baby! Even without my son in Mombasa, after experiencing life in a third world country, I realised just how materialistic we can be.